Some couples graduate into their 50s and revert back to their adolescence. Isn't that what a mid-life crisis is? You know, extravagant spending and adventures because it's "all about me" and I've got to a have a cultural norm to explain it?
I know, I know. I can't possibly empathize because I'm in my late 20s and I don't understand how practical and mission-minded expensive motorcycles are. But, I have a reason to pick this middle life bone. My parents are having the opposite experience. They would never tell you that, so I'm going to.
My parents have hearts the size of Texas and they are constantly looking for ways to grow them even bigger. Recently, my mom sent me a text that said, "What would you think of us fostering two freshmen girls?"
She had to expect my response would be, "Yessssss! Of course!" I mean, as a sophomore in college I sent my parents pictures of children who were awaiting adoption in the state of Iowa. Clearly I would be in favor of the idea, but I'm always in favor of dramatic life changes if they are in the direction of ministering with the gifts you've been given.
Then I talked to my dad. He was counting the cost - thinking about how his house would change and family gatherings would be different. He was thinking about curfews and possibly inviting two people to be part of our family forever. He was considering his role as protector for my mom who has spent herself in giving to others. He was counting the cost and it made me consider the magnitude of the life-altering adjustment.
I heard my dad's prayer requests for unselfishness. I heard my mom's prayer requests for these girls to have a future. I heard both of them ask for hearts enlarged to fit God's purpose for them at this stage in their lives and I'm humbled.
My parents will never tell you they've got it figured out, because they don't. Their lives are evidence of their humble posture toward what God is calling them into next. I count it truly a privilege to learn how to love my Lord better alongside parents who are doing the same. This might be the best lesson they are teaching me.
The opposite of a mid-life crisis is getting intentional about serving others to the point where it hurts... it means adjusting your life in a way that's painful so that others might benefit. There's never a stage in life where you arrive and can say, "At last! Comfort and relaxation and vacation." That is not a life stage in God's development plan for your holiness. It just isn't.
The beauty is that the pursuit of holiness - the forever life stage - is also the most rewarding and satisfying way you can choose to spend your days. That's not my guarantee, either.
"In His presence is fullness of joy and pleasure forevermore." Psalm 16:11